Life: Be parents

My father always told me: “Be a great parent is the most difficult job”.

This overused idiom comes from the difficulties that any parents have to overtake every day, trying to choose the best for their children. They constantly put themselves in discussion, wondering if they are weak or too strict, if they are a good example for their child/children, attentive enough to their needs, etc…

Do you agree with my father?

If you were in your parents’ role, which educational methods and choices would you have changed in their way to raise you?

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18 Responses to Life: Be parents

  1. I can’t say that I can agree literally with parenting being the “most” difficult job.

    Like anything else, different people respond differently to the same challenges. Some simply Love parenting and find it a joy and, at the other extreme, some loathe it and wish they’d never had children. And, I suppose, if they feel that way they probably shouldn’t have.

    Perhaps you’ve heard the proverb that says it takes a village to raise a child. I don’t know the origin although I’ve often seen it identified as being african.

    I think there’s much truth in this proverb, wherever it originated.

    In the “advanced” nations we have gained much knowledge but lost even more wisdom. We and our children need community, interaction and communication if there is to be hope for the future, which is what our children are.

  2. yarnspinnerr says:

    I have learned that the heaviest burden is to shoulder the aspirations of your parents. I just let my children set their own targets. 🙂

  3. shakilakhtar says:

    parenting is natural. love for your children is automatic and all of us do our best. love and care for parents is another matter. that is why, it seems, Allah has asked us to care for parents. He never asks parents to tend for off springs, as He has put it in their nature.

  4. David from Dublin (Ireland) says:

    Very difficult question. It is hard for me find a good and complete answer, maybe because it is a part of my life full of regrets.

    Nice blog….Bye!!

  5. sonyanemec says:

    I agree with Philip Larkin: ‘They f**k you up, your mum and dad…’

  6. Pecora Nera says:

    With love, patience and understanding.

  7. As a mother of three twenty-somethings, I do agree with your father. (I’m also a writer and former teacher, stylist, and DJ, so I have had a few other occupations with which to compare.)

    Now, as for the second query… My parents were alcoholics, so that’s one aspect I would have altered, if that was even possible. Education would have been more heavily emphasized. Overall, they did the best they could with the resources they had.

    I don’t have a question to post, I hope that’s okay.

  8. dearrosie says:

    What a good question! Love and support are important and helping them reach their goals

  9. predencia says:

    I’m writing a book on parenting at the moment, and have given several lectures and run a few workshops on parenting. It’s proving a difficult book to write because there are no two parents the same, and no two children, even from the same family, who are identical.

    I’m writing about children of Caribbean heritage who are presenting challenges in current day England. I’m coming from the perspective that until we understand the needs of the parents we cannot know if they are able to meet the needs of their children. The focus is therefore on parents and not just the challenging child.

    Of course this doesn’t only apply to Caribbean parents. It’s just that I’ve been asked to write about this group specifically as there seem to be a disproportionate amount of challenges given their number in the country.

    My question is this. Have you thought about your parents’ needs and how, if they had been met, it would have made them a better parent for you?

  10. alwayzevolve says:

    I do agree that being a parent is a challenging job – they are newborns and depend on you for everything, then they become toddlers and still need you but also are ready to adapt to some form of independence, then they become teenagers where what you have taught them they resist do to raging hormones, they challenge you on everything, what you taught is now being challenged against what society, friends and others say and think. I believe being a parent in this day and age is more challenging in that there is more to guard your child/children against. Our children are our investments, so we should be spending lots of time pouring into, teaching, protecting, educating and preparing them for what is out there! The job of a parent never ends, at least not for good parents. It is not the hardest job but it is the most important job. You have to teach them then free them. It’s challenging and rewarding, and only hard if you make it hard.

  11. It is a joy, of course. It is natural to love your children. This is why it makes it a difficult job. It is the most important job anyone with children has, because you need to not screw them up, and even more importantly help them flourish and live to their potential. Children are precious gifts and ones that need to be taken seriously and loved genuinely.

  12. athenahm says:

    It is NOT natural to love children. Children are little balls of annoying. I have two. They drive me insane. Being a present parent ALL THE TIME for 18-20 year stretches is probably the hardest thing I could think of. I love my children, but I definitely wish that I didn’t have to to the whole “interacting with other children and parents” thing. That part SUCKS. I would change just about everything about the way I was raised, since my mom was a drunk.

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  14. Mary Rowen says:

    Parenting might not be the most difficult job, but I think if you are a parent, most other jobs take a back seat. We’re genetically wired to care for our own kids–that’s evolution 101.

    I wouldn’t change anything about the way I was raised. Childhood wasn’t always happy–in fact there were some pretty dark moments–but the bad stuff shapes us just like the good stuff does.

  15. raeme67 says:

    I agree with your father. I’ m not sure their are many who would not. You hurt when they hurt. You want the best for them and see them making bad choices. You can guide, but at a certain time in life they must choose and you wish with all your heart they will choose wisely. You have to sit back and let them take the consequences of their actions and that is hard.

  16. My mother explained to me that she loved God more than me when I was three which made me resent God. I’d probably avoid that sort of talk. Thanks for checking out my blog!

  17. Catherine says:

    I agree with him. I am not sure my Dad completed grade school. He was President of several companies. He was a genius and helped people. He was human and wasn’t perfect. He spoke very good broken English. We lived a very poor to modest lifestyle. His advice was ask for the good koolaid.

    My mother was so poor that she had to quit high school, take a job and then go back the next year to graduate.. Quite an accomplishment in her day and time. She is a brilliant artist, very expressive and good with people. She is also a leader. She worked outside the home many years except when we were little. Her advice was remember you are a human being. She also said that you were a wellfare baby and because of that you must stop anyone trying to make poor people not be able to have babies.

    The educational methods were not bad. I learned many things from them, as well as, from the school system with freedom. I finished my all high school math in 8th grade, as well as, advanced in other subjects. I was Corporate Secretary Director of our family corporation at 14. I was an Award winning President of the Orchestra, Secretary of the Senior Choir, a member of a Thespian Troop that went to Downstate 8 and award winning artist and would not have been able to accomplish thais without the support of my parents. I went on to accomplish many things and raised a family to the joy of my parents. My siblings are very gifted, too.

  18. Tom M says:

    Parenting is only difficult when the parent can not live by the standards they advocate. I’m not saying it parenting lacks challenges, but my observations of the folks who struggle are those who do not understand that Parenting is the same as Leadership – people and children do as you do, not as you say.

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