QUESTION POSTED BY MARIAM ASHRAF
I’ll start by saying that I am a confident, single 30-something female. I have a supportive family, great career, enough income to be comfortable and I am told that I’m attractive. I’m quite social and I feel very content with my life at this point.
BUT sometimes I truly think that something is wrong with me. I can’t explain it. It comes on suddenly… some mornings I’ll just wake up and start to think the most unreasonable thoughts. Or are they? Why don’t I get along with my in-laws? That is normal, isn’t it? Or am I just a difficult person? I like to think that I’m logical, reasonable, fair and empathetic. But I often lose touch with old friends. I’ve had some friendships fall apart in a heartbreaking way. I’ve had many painful breakups. I have had fights with my family members, conflicts with co-workers, falling outs… etc. Is something fundamentally wrong with me? I actually think that many people have a touch of bipolar mood swings. If you let your mind run and if you are concerned with what others think, you may have mornings (well, for me it is usually in the morning) where you inexplicably feel down and unsatisfied with yourself. Then other mornings you feel on top of the world, also for no good reason. I now choose to get off the roller coaster of my up-and-down emotions when this happens and get dressed, get out of the house, interact with people and convince myself once again that I’m only human and this is a part of human nature. It is not a daily event but I think the key is to recognize when your feelings and thoughts are getting out of hand, especially when they lead you to wonder too much about yourself and what you are constantly doing wrong in life. I think the “happiest” (read: most truly calm, satisfied and content) people in the world are those who spend less time thinking about themselves and more time just focusing on the day-to-day, observing these mood swings and simply letting them pass through without too much regard.
Do you ever feel this way?
Do you agree that it’s a part of humanity and we should choose to not get caught on the ride of our thoughts and feelings?
Is it healthy to detach yourself from these self-destruct thoughts or should we instead contemplate them for self-examination and eventual growth?
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