Life: Why?

QUESTION POSTED BY MARTY PARRILL

As humans we desire to have so many personal things, such as a great job, big house, fancy car, money, a tremendous marriage, power, esteem, etc. Humans who possess these things, regularly commit suicide. I look at a individual like Mother Theresa who has none of these material things but seems to have such a depth of compassion, purpose or bliss.

Please explain why this can be reality?

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36 Responses to Life: Why?

  1. The short story is about the Ego. Everybody has one but it’s all in the amount of influence the Ego has on us which makes the difference. The Ego is our drive to do things and to have things. Mother Theresa had overcome the Ego’s control of the “self” to live her life in compassion. She still wanted to accomplish things but her view was different for not having the Ego in complete control.

  2. psampson2888 says:

    I try to live a simple life that is kind of based around helping others and trying enjoy the little things. I don’t get caught up in all the material stuff being thrown at us because that hasn’t done me well in the past. It is my opinion that this could be easily done if thought about it more seriously on an individual level.

  3. Clark Kent says:

    The search for wholeness in material is never satisfying it keeps you outside yourself and therefore you will seek more things to become attached to outside you. This is more than abandoning yourself it’s abandoning the miracle that you are in human form. If you can’t embrace yourself you will find this completely exhausting as nothing ever seems to remove the void of this very thing. Your mind will keep you searching for answers that are always outside you and it will drown out the voice of what is inside you. You will never feel it and never get a glimpse of it therefore the search for wholeness will end and you will give in to what the void brings to you.

  4. People seek happiness outside themselves. There is always another desire to satisfy but once it is satisfied, it doesn’t convert desire into happiness:it turns desire in a loss. Loss of another dream. If that loss isn’t replaced by an understanding where happiness really comes from, life becomes a very dark place.
    Mother Teresa understood that seeing reality as it really is is a tremendous source of joy. It turns the world into “Disneyland”, as in, a place where everything is fun. In that real world, living and working with the poorest is as much a source of joy as being at a beach party. She chose for the poor and make her self useful, Same fun but better.

  5. tjsthings says:

    Mother Theresa led a life whose purpose was service. She believed that the only value of wealth was to assist the poor. I have always found that being generous and selfless always feels better than having and or hoarding stuff.

  6. Catherine says:

    The key is to aspire, not desire.

  7. Demosthenes says:

    The comparison between “ALL the people who posses material things” and ONE Mother Teresa (whose reputation and conscience was far from flawless) can hardly be called practical. You would need to make a study on large groups of people in order to arrive at a reasonable conclusion. I for example consider myself both materially richer than at least half of the human population and very compassionate when it comes to other living creatures.

    Funnily enough, I’ve just finished my Daily Prompt on happiness. Have a look if you can find any answers in my post. 🙂 http://thealliesofreason.wordpress.com/2013/02/26/how-dare-we-call-ourselves-happy/

  8. The question muddles up inner security and outer security as esteem is definitely not a ‘material thing’ – yet in my opinion we all need a balanced level of both. We are human beings that essentially need sustenance, warmth, money to buy food etc, and this all arises from having outer security – being able to provide for our human forms. However, inner security results from feeling worthwhile, perhaps from having a job where you help others and grow personally and leads to healthy level of self-esteem. This latter is more important because without – you won’t really be able to achieve balanced outer security. The desire to have ‘more’ may arise from the lack of inner security – we think we can heal these wounds with a new car, a bigger house, even a baby (!) but actually the wound just remains as unchecked as ever. The mind is clever – it will do anything it can to distract us from the real, and sometimes painful issue to be dealt with. Plus – despite Mother Teresa not having a lot of material goods, she would have still have had the basics – a roof over her head and food to eat. This is the aim – to get a certain level of comfort for our human bodies, and then work on Giving Back – because the only way you achieve long-lasting fulfillment and satisfaction with life is once you’ve found out what your gift to the world will be. Give back – and Grow. My opinion is really based on Maslow’s ‘Hierarchy of Needs’.

    Namaste

  9. We will never know if its true, but it is said that even Mother Teresa had a little bologna in her act …

    http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1655720,00.html

  10. Chatty Owl says:

    I think the more we have and achieve, the more goals we keep on setting ourselves, creating new expectations and always longing for something more more more. Its like domino effect in the opposite. And it overwhelms us eventually, puts a lot of pressure on us and I think eventually it takes its toll, where one thinks of an unnatural way out..

  11. Carmen Miro says:

    Fear of abandonment.

  12. beaufreedom says:

    The more we have the more we want, the more we realise these things dont make us happy, they just end up controlling us and consuming us. Its true that the most content people are those who just have enough.

  13. reginafarias says:

    Drive by Daniel H. Pink <—- Highly Recommended Book.

  14. Great topic!
    I think, that we are taught to chase material things by our parents who were also taught by their parents, taught their parents, etc. Fortunately for us, we are at a point in time where we are finally looking past what we’re “supposed” to want, and questioning what we actually do want.

  15. Some of us seek our reward in a vast accumulation of things because they lack any other anchor for their self identity. Others are certain enough of their identity to realize their is no need for other anchors for their reality.

  16. sophist6 says:

    I think about this a lot actually. I don’t want or need material things. I do however want to be able to live my life without financial worry. Our society does not allow for the poor to reap the benefits of living for self fulfillment alone and I don’t have the following of Mother Theresa to ensure that my basic needs are cared for. Maybe I don’t trust enough. Maybe I lack faith. Maybe… I am so jaded by western society that I can’t let go of that need for security. It is a good question….

  17. TheImaginator says:

    It’s all down to our need to breed. We need to breed in order to pass on our genes along future generations, it’s our survival instinct. To give ourselves the best chance of breeding, then of surviving to protect our young and giving them the best chance of survival, we engage in a number of activities such as birds do, namely getting good at finding food, getting good at talking or singing or dancing or making use of tools, making a nest, and picking the right partner to breed with (a partner which is genetically compatible with us and has suitable genetic diversity to ensure strong and healthy offspring). Oh, and we want to be good at socialising so that we have groups (it’s why we seek to conform to societal norms, succumb to peer pressure, seek peer validation, compare ourselves with others, and resent ourselves for not being as successful/talented/beautiful as they are). It’s all about breeding, our happiness is unconsciously linked to it, it’s how we’re wired. Mother Theresa was not really an exception to this, if you believe that altruism is consciously or unconsciously linked to these concepts.

  18. When your mind says you must have this or that, examine your heart. If the mind says “yes” but the heart says “no”, go with the heart. Whenever I’ve gone with my mind’s “yes, gimme, gimme”, there’s always been ramifications of one kind or another.

    • Yes, very much so. This portion of the mind has been referred to as the Ego. The Ego gets us into a lot of trouble if we don’t override it. When we can see what it’s been up to we know just how much of what we do has been Ego based.

  19. A lot of those people who commit suicide when they have it all forget about or simply lack, for various reasons, personal fulfillment, which happens when you are too worried about keeping your material things.

    Still, Mother Theresa went through her own problems, and there’re a lot of people with everything who are perfectly happy with them.

    And the real reality, as evidenced by there being very few Mother Theresa’s, is that most people are happy with some good medium between having everything and ‘having nothing’. I find this question more sensually provocative than intellectual.

  20. online free says:

    haha nice, real nice

  21. Don Hartness says:

    Mother Theresa had is what all of us want, although few are willing to sacrifice their things for it. What did Mother Theresa have? You won’t find it in a blog. 😉

  22. Carl says:

    The unhealthy drive for material things comes from an inability to find purpose in one’s life. It is much easier to compete in an ego-driven culture than it is to live according to purpose, especially in a culture where to live according to purpose is considered sickness. It’s easier to compare toys with other toys and label that achievement of purpose than it is to truly solve the purpose of the soul, which is not visible and not measurable. I have this problem of our culture, but I am grateful that I am at least aware that I have the problem.

  23. Ruby says:

    Our society works as a pyramid like in big companies. We are being forced everyday to be better for the society not ourselves, to reach the top. If we fail, it’s when the suicidal thoughts start. We do have the option to get out of this pyramid system and look within. In the end, we live for us not for others.

  24. inkspeare says:

    The most wonderful gift we have been given is to be able to trace our own path, make the map for our journey. On the way, we get distracted by material things, emotions, feelings, situations – but that is part of living and learning. I’ve notice that when someone goes into a soul searching state or on a spiritual path, the first thing that person does is to rid himself/herself of material things. People start decluttering their environments first, followed by their life – relationships … I truly believe that we are where we are for a reason, but in our way to a destination?, maybe the destination has always been the Now, because that is really the only thing we truly have, the now. We can always plan and steer our ship to a better now – is that a contradiction? Maybe not.

    • I’ve noticed this too, it’s seemed that the more spiritual a person gets the less involved with “things” they become. The spiritual quest does show a person what is really important in life.

  25. cherylfoston says:

    WONDERFUL POST! I love your blog, very creative and thought provoking! Thanks, for stopping by my blog as well.

  26. chebandbecky says:

    I must admit, my desires are a little more mundane; I want to stay sane, and have my body stop hurting! I do see greedy people, but have also been exposed to many more people who are generous and giving.

  27. abvblogger says:

    You are who you are because of differences in psychological temperament as well as upbringing and other circumstances. But regardless, people who are suicidal can be treated and cured by a qualified therapist. It’s not a matter for philosophy or do-it-yourself by changing your views and lifetstyle – though that might form part of the therapy. You’d visit a doctor regarding a heart attack, even if all he does is to tell you to exercise and come in for a check-up every now and then. So if you’re suicidal, you get professional help.

    Not that I think you are suicidal, but since your question mentions it, I felt it is important to answer seriously!

    • Well said!
      I an an Essential Oils Consultant* and one of the things I focus on is that, as good and helpful as these products may be, they should be seen as preventive and as first aid, (and can also be used as supplements to medical protocols) anything serious warrants a call to your primary health provider (or especially to 911 if it is life threatening).

      In the same vein, requesting a blessing from a priest or elder and personal prayers also seem to be a plus.

      * http://www.mydoterra.com/yourhealthierfuture/

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